Seeker of Awareness®

Enlightening Essays by Dana Marie

According to Webster's Dictionary, the word 'fear' describes relevance to limitations or holding back:

An unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger:
An instance of this emotion: a state marked by this emotion;
Profound reverence and awe especially toward God;
Reason for alarm: DANGER
Synonyms: FEAR, DREAD, FRIGHT, ALARM, PANIC, TERROR, TREPIDATION mean painful agitation in the presence or anticipation of danger. FEAR is the most general term and implies anxiety and usually loss of courage [fear of the unknown]. DREAD usually adds the idea of intense reluctance to face or meet a person or situation and suggests aversion as well as anxiety [faced the meeting with dread]. FRIGHT implies the shock of sudden, startling fear [fright at being awakened suddenly]. ALARM suggests a sudden and intense awareness of immediate danger [view the situation with alarm]. PANIC implies unreasoning and overmastering fear causing hysterical activity [the news caused widespread panic]. TERROR implies the most extreme degree of fear [immobilized with terror]. TREPIDATION adds to DREAD the implications of timidity, trembling, and hesitation [raised the subject with trepidation].

With my essay, I bring you to another awareness of fear by demonstrating how it creates panic, anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem, therefore causing paralysis in our goals, our relationships, divine awakening, perceptions and so forth. Probable reasons deep within our consciousness cause fear stones to develop. Let's examine what is necessary for passing these stones so our minds and hearts are clear for safe passage into a life of renewal.

I came up with the term "fear stones" because fear (in itself) grows solidly in the same way as kidney stones, a rather painful process requiring elimination from the body. Fear stones accumulate through life conditions from early childhood and they enlarge, and become increasingly painful, as we mature into adulthood. The desire to relieve ourselves of this pain, such as passing a kidney stone, is something we may or may not admit, depending on our comfort zone (or status quo). If we resist a life filled with countless possibilities, in both the physical and spiritual senses, then our existence appears as fear instead of faith. In other words, hindering our personal growth and development (transcending towards a higher state of grace and better way of living) is very detrimental. By ridding ourselves of fear stones, we tend to think more intuitively, seeing things for what they are and not what we perceive they should be. Realizing truth, as part of releasing fear stones, is painful because clarity channels through our thoughts; in so doing, we eventually witness uncomfortable aspects of ourselves.

What causes fear stones? Fear, self inflicted or otherwise, is an emotion derived since infancy or very early childhood. For instance, at the age of 2 or 3, a scolding parent upsets your jovial playtime by punishing for you misbehaving. Upset, and apparently disappointed by the incident, you immediately latched onto fear as a defense mechanism. The behavior becomes habitual, thereby creating distrust in yourself and others as you age. Antagonism, pessimism, self-doubt, hatred, and other uneasy feelings attracted from peers and elders fused into fear stones, small in size at the beginning yet rising over the years.

Examine how your life materialized from the beginning. We might have been around difficult adults -- such as parents, relatives or teachers -- who involuntarily (or voluntarily) stimulated pain within us. It doesn't necessarily translate into us fearing them but developing a stagnant assumption of being unworthy or worthless to have an exceptional life. With this theory aside, another startling revelation is we, as human beings, are responsible for either sensationalizing or eradicating fear stones. Minimizing fear stones take exceptional time and perseverance, especially when we become adults, because of the diligence and strength to break through years of vicious cycles, negative behaviors, and feeling victimized. You would have to trust your abilities, including the willingness to overcome fear, for securing a path of wholeness and completion. By living in a constant state of fear, or not passing fear stones, your view of life is apparently fragmented, broken, and discontented. Harmony and synchronicity fail to exist because you are holding onto an illusion of not being good enough [or too afraid] to extend beyond your limits. The first aspect to explore as far as eliminating fear stones is relationships.

How does fear influence relationships?

Relationships, whether intimate or platonic, are grounded in trust, equality and accord. Of course, we find ourselves in great relationships with friends, family, co-workers, as well as like-minded individuals who share our ideas and values.

When we have synchronicity with another, it makes the relationship substantial enough for becoming a spiritual partnership. You and the other person are on the same level of communication, same level of thought, and same level of affection.

On the other hand, I call relationships that are completely opposite as disengagements. If we find ourselves embattling or disagreeing with a person (or persons) in our lives, it's disengagement rather than enchantment, leading to unhealthy patterns of codependency and unresolved turmoil.

When involved in a disengaging relationship, egos clash, personalities wrestle, and power struggles ensue, forming disharmonious and tiresome conflicts. Are you disengaged from someone close in your life? If so, overcoming this challenge is possible but you must extremely look into core attitudes about the relationship. Does the other person ignite passion deep within for overpowering anger and frustration? Or are you not in love with the other person anymore? Were you ever in love to begin with? By asking yourself these questions about a disengaged relationship, you need to take proper action so bitterness does not emerge to the surface. You can try counseling to start over from scratch, rekindle loving feelings of affection, and establish agreements to make things work. If counseling fails to succeed, you may attempt meditating together, taking long walks, communicating more openly and deeply (without provoking anger), or planning trips to romantic destinations. In worst case scenarios, should favorable long-term results give way to neglecting reaffirmations of solid commitment, then it might be wise to amicably part ways -- without carrying grudges or hatred -- and begin life anew either with someone better to enhance your life or discovering your true self by flying solo.

I neither emphasize nor advocate divorce and break-ups. If workable solutions exist, so be it. Be present to the situation and see what happens. However, if a relationship lacks passion, profound love, or at least desire, you have become disengaged. Trying to find your way back into the other person's heart could be more cumbersome than it's worth. Be responsible by doing the right thing. If separation is the remaining choice from your options (everything you tried time and time again), prepare to do so with love, respect and dignity, especially if it involves family.

However, and most importantly, if your relationship makes both parties' hearts sing with love as the driving force, glory, glory, halleluiah! I do mean this wholeheartedly. You already built a solid foundation for a beautiful relationship and worked through trials and tribulations to remain peacefully with each other. You have your life mate and soul partner -- many congratulations!

Now, let's stir some controversy. Relationships don't always have to follow rules or creeds. Relationships can be as free and loving as you want them to be. If you feel restricted in a relationship with one who is the same religion or race, then that truly speaks volumes. You are entering a chapter in your life when ethnicity makes no difference as far as being completely in love. Stepping out of the box or comfort zone, regarding intimate relationships, might shape your views on what makes you sing with delight. For example, you're a man who was always attracted to a certain type of woman but now gravitating towards a lady whose features and physique are diverse. You seemingly get along very well and see her as a potential mate, your true partner, but are afraid of taking that risk. Let the fear stone pass! Despite the appearance of a person you would never consider attractive in your wildest dreams, sometimes the universe surprises us with mates that look (or think) differently from superficial notions.

I heard stories of heterosexuals falling in love with their own gender for great same sex relationships. People who never dated outside their own race became instantly attracted to another through being touched, moved and inspired. Once shifting your focus, looking at things from different angles and other such enlightening perspectives, you find a person open and receptive to unconditional love, despite social, racial or educational distinctions. Opposites attract? It's not unheard of. Pass the fear stone -- accept, embrace and love someone who doesn't fit a particular category or lifestyle! When two people come together on a spiritual level in the physical world, we tend to complain, reject feelings, or question the connection; however, there isn't any use for resistance because the union naturally evolves beyond expectations! Be open to receiving undivided attention and joy from someone who doesn't fit the mold because you could end up with immeasurable surprises. Dare to be different by rebelling against the status quo and mainstream. Reach out and begin new and fulfilling relationships.

Moreover, loving another also begins with loving yourself. If detached from your sense of self, attracting a special mate for commitment will not fall in your lap instantly. Take time and diligence to love your entire self. I am not speaking of narcissism but appreciate what you have, where you came from, and especially the person capable of love and being loved. Not loving yourself is the same as refusing to see love in anyone else. This brings up skepticism, self doubt, cynicism, feelings of failure, and resorting to loneliness or disengagement. Prevent that from happening by believing your qualities are just as good as anyone else's. Stand firm for realization the truth that you are a being created by love, even if others state the contrary. Soon after, a special someone will appear out of the blue, maybe just around the corner, to entire your life for wondrous moments ahead.

Politicians and government leaders of the world, take notice! What we need is to fully embrace and love one another, regardless of enemy lines, religious boundaries, and ethnic viewpoints. It's time to put wars and hostility to rest. Isn't that what Jesus taught? Buddha? What about John Lennon? When are we finally laying down our arms so we can hug instead of drawing weapons? Whether it's in the streets, over territories, in our classrooms, on the job -- let's stand up for peace once and for all!

How does fear impact finances?

Do you know how many of us are fearful of money? It sounds crazy but in fact it’s increasingly evident on how we spend and save – and not always with conviction or certainty. I admit to having fear of losing money probably because I grew up in a "haves" versus "have nots" environment, as well as witnessing my parents struggle to get by. Since my early twenties, a fear of not having enough consumed my thoughts and behaviors to the point I was irresponsible and apparently fell into credit card and personal loan debt. Even while approaching my forties, to control finances, or eliminating the fear of not having enough, is still difficult. I had to embrace a realization my present monetary resources are fine and all is well; I didn’t need any more or any less because the universe is abundant and always supplies. Of course, who wouldn’t want to have some extra cash in the bank? However, there is a stigma that the less you work, the less you earn. Is it worth working excessive amounts of hours per week just to get ahead – and sacrificing your time with friends, family and self? Bless with what you have and be open to other ways of creating finances rather than holding on to money, or spending excessively, because of fear.

There is one way, out of thousands, how to attract abundance and prosperity. Generosity! Even if you feel money is low, being generous opens many doors to your spiritual path benefiting both mental and emotional points of view. For instance, thoroughly clean out closets, storage areas, trunks, attics, basements, and look for things not used in years. After sorting trash from salvageable, set up a garage/yard/apartment sale and generate money that way. Or, if you dare to be bold, DONATE your old stuff! I give away such items, mostly in decent condition, by posting them on a message board at www.freecycle.org. You sign up by region (or locality) and offer what you don’t want or need. There is always someone looking for an item you think is rubbish. Or contribute unused goods to your nearest Goodwill or Salvation Army. Think of it as serving your higher purpose by giving stuff away. Then, affirm with clarity and passion, you are highly capable of attracting money to your life and start to experience one windfall after another, eradicating fear of finances and gradually increasing cash flow.

Philanthropy -- charitable donations, tithing, or even volunteer work -- is a strong practice to generously benefit humanity and showing your fear of money as non-existent. By donating up to 20% or more of one’s yearly income towards worthwhile causes, helping those in need without giving a second thought, the reward comes back to you in greater amounts. Also, be very openhanded to anyone who graciously helps you with errands, small favors, or anything else to lighten burdens in your life.

In conclusion, passing fear stones is the first step towards having freedom, embracing prosperity and broadening how you see things in the world.  The old, stale programming and conditioning will begin to peel away like shedding snake skin, and the results will far exceed your own expectations.

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Essay 2:  "Who is a Seeker of Awareness?" © 2007

What makes you a Seeker of Awareness?  It's based on 3 important principles:

INtent

INtegriy

INsight

Notice the 3 INs?  A Seeker explores truth through learning, expansion, acceptance and gravitating towards a higher vibration (God, The Creator, Source).  The mainstream would consider a Seeker an outcast because of unorthodox beliefs and virtues.  A Seeker is actually an IN-cast.  You are IN with knowledge, with divine presence, with understanding, with compassion, with faith, and with a gift or ability setting you apart from the status quo.  Over the coming months, I will teach in more detail the 3 IN principles for enlightenment and powerful living.   For now, let's begin with intent.

INTENT

First and foremost, Seekers of Awareness, such as healers, psychics, mediums, sensitive adults and children, seers, mystics, spiritual non-conformists, visionaries, and are at times considered outcasts from mainstream cultural, political, or social ways of thinking, conditioning or programming. Seekers are actually IN-casts, because they are IN tune with Spirit, IN tune with a soul awakening, and IN communication with fellow seekers and those who may still be a few leagues behind. This doesn't make Seekers better than anyone else but we do have a divine mission. That is, to enlighten and empower the world in raising the vibration of universal consciousness.

1. Something that is intended; purpose; design; intention.
2. The act or fact of intending, as to do something.
3. The state of a person's mind that directs his or her actions toward a specific object.
4. Meaning or significance.

1. Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty
2. The state of being whole, entire, or undiminished.
3. A sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition.

1. The power or act of seeing into a situation.
2. The act or result of apprehending the inner nature of things or of seeing intuitively.

These are the basic principles Seekers of Awareness follow consistently.  It's a transformational life change required to live healthily, with dignity, having self-respect and providing service to humanity.  A historical shift in consciousness is underway and Spirit is calling us one by one to get ready!